true love waits!

"i am not looking for love, i just wait for it" -sam

such words coming from someone who is not a professing Christian! if a non-believer can such have a strong conviction (though i do not know what's his motivation), why can't i?!?

in this secular world, many Christians go backslide because of the temptation and doings of the enemy. he places norms which are directly (implicitly or explicitly) against the orders of the Almighty. examples are corruption, deceit, dishonesty, etc... but i shall focus on one of the three things that the Scriptures say will remain forever - the ever loyal *love*.

i am a professing member of NGBSB or No Girlfriend/Boyfriend Since Birth. i am not ashamed of it. extreme pressure cannot be denied especially among people in our year bracket (teenagers and young adults, 13-25). i too have faced and still am facing this challenge. if i were not a Christian and consequently no strong convictions, i can honestly say, i would have also fallen for it.

ever since i reached puberty level, i always have a sphere of influence that has people belonging to the NGBSB, yet there are also those who have already had their firsts. i am not a psych or bio major, or any other fields that study human behavior, so i cannot say WHEN people DO REALLY FALL IN LOVE.

but i can say, that i have been standing by the test of this feeling. i do not really know when someone feels *true love*. some say you are in love when you always think of that person and could not let even a single second pass not thinking of that person. others say that you have a sense of aphrodisiac when you are with that special someone. the subjectivity of this feeling is the danger of it.

disclaimer, i am not saying having crushes is wrong. i have had many already. it is just some people court other people because they are PRESSURED. like you are the only one in your circle who has no partner, or one of your friends has a relationship with someone already, thus you feel the need to have one also.

aside from the fear of rejection (in layman's term, fear of being *busted*) and the focus of being ready (financially, emotionally, spiritually, etc), the preceding statements guide me.

it would be not fair for your part, and especially VERY UNFAIR for the part of the girl (or boy for girls), if you just court her because you just *want* to. worse is when you do it because of peer pressure and envy, in other words conformity to what you see and feel.

these are just many of the reasons why i do not like to pursue in courting somebody. she is really, if i am not mistaken, THE ONE that i have felt something very special. i noticed her since i was a sophomore in the tertiary level, and now we are already seniors, that feeling did not much significantly diminished. compared to other girls that i had *kilig moments*. some of them i consider , my sister or niece if you will.

this situation begs for something that is not feeling-based. after all, that emotion can last for just days, weeks, months, or even years. but at the end, you are not deemed for each other. this is what i would like to avoid --- courting just because i wanna know how it feels and i do not care if we are really not meant for each other.

with this, i found the advice if kuya caloy to be very helpful... that is to pray for that *special someone*. let Him speak whether or not you are for each other. this is the Christian way... this is what separates us from the secular world. some people do it because of the emotion they feel momentarily, but as time goes by they find somebody else. dump that person, they do not care. this is where waiting and prayer comes into the pictue. we Christians should not do it for just the hang of it. we should do it because we believe that God has somebody in store for us that everything shall go well according to His plans.

we Christians should fight that feeling of jelousy and momentary emotion. sure, we have many crushes, this includes me, but we should not take it to the next level if we Christians do not seem to find it coherent with what the Word of God says! let us Christians shape the world, not the other way around. let us always remember that bandwagons follow, they do not lead!

Christians have high moral standards, and have something different that many people can see conspicuously, hence, there should be no reason why we could not lead! one of the things we could do this leading is by letting others know and see that we are strong in our convictions and not let the secular world (no matter how pleasurable it may seem) rule over us.

remember that emotions come and go, but the Love of God endures FOREVER!

sing, praise... sing praise...
FOREVER God is faithful, FOREVER God is strong, FOREVER God is with us...
FOREVER... AND EVER...